Online Dating The Pros And The Cons

Online Dating- The Pros And The Cons
By: Jim McMenamin

Heres a quick exercise you can use if youre trying to figure out whether or not to get involved with online dating. Each of us has different ideas on what is important, but it sometimes helps to write things down on paper.

Heres a quick list that applies to me.

Pros:

If youre shy, online dating is a lot easier than walking up to a complete stranger.

The pool available online is pretty large. Im able to chat with a lot of quality females from the privacy of my living room.

What a savings of time. I can talk with many different singles all at once, at a time thats convenient to me, whether its early in the morning before work or late at night.

If using a paid service, youre confident that the other person communicating is single and is interested in finding another single. Thats never the case in the real world.

The cost is relatively cheap. The monthly cost of an online membership is way cheaper than buying a woman a couple of drinks or taking a date out to a movie.

You actually know someone when you finally go out on a date in the real world. Getting to know them in the virtual world makes the first meeting a lot less stressful.

You get something accomplished each time you log on. You will have a couple of constructive discussions and a couple of leads for future sessions. Lord knows how many times I used to come home from a night out all depressed because I didnt meet anyone.

If you start talking to someone and it just isnt clicking, its much easier to terminate the relationship than it is face to face.

Cons:

People are still somewhat embarrassed to tell friends and families theyre using a dating service, let alone an online one.

People dont always tell the truth online, although I guess that applies to the real world as well.

I always feel like there are a lot more men than women on the site. I dont know if its true or not, but thats the perception I get.

You get to know the personality of the person youre talking to but you dont get an idea if theres any physical chemistry between the two of you. There are a lot of people that I love talking to, but a big part of a relationship is the physical aspect.

Once you put it all down on paper, Im sure that youll notice the pluses far outnumber the minus. The risks are quite minimal, and the upside potential is pretty big. If youre on the fence about this decision, take the time to write down the pros and cons and Im sure youll come to a similar decision.

You really dont have too much to lose. Give online dating a try and see if you can do something to improve your love life.


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About the Author:
Jim McMenamin is the creator of , a blog dedicated to the various issues of online dating. For a limited time, Jim is giving away two free eBooks, 10 Tips To Writing Your Online Dating Profile as well as 101 Steps To A Happy Relationship, when you sign up for his newsletter.