Online Dating - 3 Dirty Little Secrets To Instant Success

By: Kurt Dight


There are three things you must understand if you want to dating online successfully. Do this, and it will be pay high dividends in the form of pleasure and fulfillment. However, not knowing certain critical things in the world of online dating can cause you grief, eat up your time and even cost you money. In this article, I will discuss the three things every guy should know about online dating.

The most important thing is the dating site itself. A general rule of thumb is that for every high quality dating site out here, there are 100 bad ones. To pick a good dating site, you must have a criteria. First, it is wise to start with a well known dating site. Because they are popular, they are under a lot of scrutiny. This means they can't get away with using fake profiles, phishing out your personal information or get away with poor customer service.

However, there is more to it than that. Just because a site is popular doesn't mean that it is functional. It is very important that the site you choose is easy to navigate through, easy to access profiles from people in your area and monitors spam messages. While there are free sites out there, there are very few that are highly functional. If you have a lot of free time and little money, then I would start with free sites. However, if you value your time and are willing to invest a small amount of money, I would start with reputable sites that allow you a free 30 day trial. This is where you can test the functionality of the web site.

The second thing you should know about online dating is how to create a profile. This is your invitation for a woman to start a conversation with you. Rule number 1: Your profile can't be normal or boring. You can't bore a woman into being attracted to you, and nobody wants "average". Pick an interesting user name which piques her curiosity. You know you have it right when you think she'll read it and say to herself "I just want to know more about him!"

Also, an advanced technique is to use qualifiers in your profile. As humans we are hardwired to respond to challenges. If you put something in your profile that says, "no sexually repressed, needy women please!" you are sending a very specific message. You are selective because you are valuable. These qualifiers are great for giving her fodder to start a conversation with you.

Finally, when you do start sending her messages, you must do so in such a way to create impact. A general greeting and then rambling on about your work and family is boring. It shows you are average and that you offer no excitement or added value in her life. Think about what the most watched television shows are on television. Comedy and drama. That is because they make us feel good and give us excitement. Use those same techniques in your message. Be funny in a charming way. Talk about things that are fascinating. Women get so many messages on dating sites, they only have time to respond to those that are interesting. Remember that before you send out your next message.


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